Moments of Musing

Halfway{ish} There!

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We’re halfway {give or take some} from the last time we’ve seen each other to the time we’ll next be reunited/ LIVE TOGETHER!!!

When I tell people that the next time I’ll see T is this summer when he moves here, they are shocked. At first, I don’t understand it. What’s another 7 months when we’ve got the REST OF OUR LIVES? Oh, and puh-lease we’ve been here and done this before when he was deployed. We’re p-r-o-s. 
 
But then I realize not everyone knows what’s it’s like. Not everyone is willing to do distance. Not everyone believes their relationship–and sanity–can withstand such an obstacle.
 
To T and me, this has become our normal over the years. Time differences. Being separated by oceans. Skype instead of in-person dates. Years of hellos and see you laters. It has all become a part of us, of our relationship, of ourselves and our outlooks on things. It’s allowed us to grow as individuals and as a team.

Back in 2011, I was on the other side of the fence. I thought this was impossible. Live apart from my boyfriend? For months at a time?? Thousands of miles away? Heck no! And then we took the leap of faith. We decided our love was bigger than the ocean that would separate us. We were happy with our respective lives, he with the Navy and me with law school and a hopeful career. 
 
I find solace in others’ long distance love stories just as others have told me they find inspiration in ours. It warms my heart to be others’ “proof” that pursuing your own career and having distance in a relationship while doing so is okay–that a relationship can actually thrive under those circumstances. It makes me proud wen others ask me for advice–how I did it, how I do it, how it feels.
 
I always remind them–it’s worth it. And it’s possible.  
Just look at Tim and me.
 

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About Jacqueline Hernandez Lewis

Featured on Associated Press as a trailblazing Latina influencer and on Parents as a Latina mom to follow, Jacqueline Hernandez Lewis is a writer and content creator celebrating womanhood, motherhood and humanity. She also works for a NYC nonprofit dedicated to preventing domestic violence and promoting gender justice. Of all her roles, mom and wife are her favorite.

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