Moments of Musing

Halloween costumes revealed!

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Traditional Day of the Dead:
As you can see, we take Halloween seriously around here. It’s such a fun holiday. I can only imagine how much more fun it will be when we have kiddos!

What did you all dress up as?

Halloweek 2015

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We’ve officially kicked off Halloween Week around these parts! Hocus Pocus, check! Scary movie (Crimson Peak), check! Halloween-decorated garden, check! Costume shopping, check! 
This is exciting. I’m always excited to dress up. Last year was my first time ever being something scary. This year I’m going to be a mix of scary + pretty. 
Stay tuned to see what we dress up as this year!

A good person

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I recently got into a debate (with a man). The topic of our discussion was whether a wife should be expected to cater to her husband, i.e. cook for him, serve his dinner, iron for him, pack for him, etc. 

(Note: if you are a wife and you enjoy doing these things for your husband, that’s great. Expectation is very different from desire.)

When I expressed concern over having been told (by other people previously, not by the man) what I, in order to be a good wife, ought to do for my husband, the man said (not verbatim) that it’s okay for a girl to be raised to be a good wife because it’s sometimes necessary in order to hold on to a good man. 

I let that digest for a few seconds. And then I explained that I grew up striving to be a good woman, and a mom. 

I might have grown up in a romanticized world and I might have always wanted to get married, but until I got married I had never centered my life around becoming a good wife. How could I even be a good wife if I am not a good woman?

Then, I thought to myself: even more than a good woman– I want to be a good person. I want to live life to the fullest, I hope to help others, I desire to be a kind and compassionate person. 

Don’t get me wrong–I love my husband deeply. I have served Mr. L dinner. And I’ve also ironed for him, I’ve done his laundry, cooked for him. He’s also done the same for me. Mutuality is our key. I hope we always practice it and I hope we can show our children just how important that balance is.