Moments of Musing

The W word

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No, not “wedding.” I’m taking about the titles “wifey” or “wife.” Pretty soon they’ll officially be some of mine. I say some because I am also a daughter, sister, cousin, niece, friend, a New Yorker, a lawyer… You get the point. I don’t plan on losing my other identities when I marry–I’ll just add onto them. I digress. 

I have to admit it won’t be the first time I’ll have been called a wife[y] by Tim. In fact, way back in March of 2011 that was his nickname for me. It seems crazy to think about how that was only two months after we’d met but I guess he’s serious when he says he knew. When you know, you just do I guess.

And that’s why he’d say we he felt as though we were engaged without the title during a January 2012 walk in Kapolei, Hawaii. I remember everything about the conversation clearly–where we were, what we wore, what we were doing that evening. And then there was this Christmas 2012 card:

I’m excited for our wedding and to become a wife–HIS wife–so soon. I’m excited for more adventures. For the beginning of a new chapter. Mostly, though, I’m excited to just be together forever without long distance. 

Body Image Realization

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Sometimes (see: quite often) I am hard on myself, body image wise. It’s easy to feel that way after a days’ worth of feasting and not working out. I wish it wasn’t a struggle but it sometimes is.
A couple nights ago, Tim and I were speaking about and comparing the differences in our perceptions of women’s bodies and it was kind of alarming. So on Sunday before we headed out on our 10-mile walk I had Tim take my photo. Because I was wearing the same tank top I’d worn to a run in September 2012. And I wanted to compare what I looked like.
It made me realize that while I might not see the changes from day-to-day, they are there and I ought to give myself more credit.

A New Season is Upon Us

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This past weekend Tim and I watched Penn State during brunch and Michigan during dinner. We went on a 10-mile walk yesterday and stopped for some football in between. All of this football means that fall is basically here. 

It’s hard to believe that a year ago I was laying on the beaches of Oahu, temporarily living with my then-boyfriend/now-fiancé, and patiently awaiting what the near future held.

Fast forward to now, Tim is living here with me. We’ve gone on two road trips. We have a concert, an out-of-town wedding, apartment hunting, a work trip (me), the start of school (him) on the horizon. And the weather is once again changing seasons.

I love fall. Because I can wear boots and scarves and sweaters. But also because it somehow also signifies exciting changes in life. Last year, I learned I passed the bar, I moved to Chicago and I got engaged in Las Vegas. This year, we’re getting married and our adventures will continue in Brazil but also here–together.

And that’s the best thing of all.

#ourlastvacaflingbeforeourrings

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Also known as our #engagementmoon. This past weekend Tim and I took a road trip to Nashville. Tim drove through Friday night so we arrived super early and he surprised me with a Dunkin Donuts + sunrise date. Afterwards we drove around downtown and our hotel was amazing enough to allow us to check in at 7:30AM and upgrade us for free to an atrium balcony. 

We spent the rest of Saturday at our hotel for dinner and a boat ride and then we went to the Grand Ole Opry, a must do. We spent the earlier part of Sunday with Tim’s family out in the country and visited his grandparents’ graves. We then went out in Nashville–as in we went to almost every bar and we were constantly blown away by the talent. My personal faves were Tootsies and The Stage. So. Much. Fun!

This weekend was great and just what we needed in the midst of all our wedding planning. It was nice to get away just the two of us and have not a worry in the world. Here’s our trip recap in photos:







A Yearlong Engagement

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When we first got engaged Tim wanted a two-year engagement. I, however, was steadfast in my desire to have a year-long engagement, give or take. He wasn’t too excited about this “short” timeline but agreed anyway. 

Good thing he did! Because just recently, we were discussing how we wished we were getting married a month SOONER in October. No biggie, I know but funny how he’s come around–and then some. 

Really, though, Tim doesn’t want to hear about wedding planning details for longer than necessary… And I’m right with him so I’m happy we’ll be engaged for just a year. In my opinion, it’s still a pretty good amount of time and if I had to do it over, I would keep our engagement the same, if not slightly shorter. 

I know it’s not logistically or financially possible for some but if it is, I encourage you to do the same. It’s enough time to plan and be excited and still have all the typical celebrations (bachelor[ette] parties and wedding showers). 

…And it leaves you less anxious/antsy (unless you’re a worrier) because you know your day is fast approaching from the onset! 🙂