Recommence the “Normalcy”
Separations {Guest Post}
Happy Monday!
As most of you know, I have been away from blogland this month. Lucky for me – AND you!- I’ve had some great girls posting for me every week. This is my LAST guest post of this series, which means that I will be back to blogging VERY SOON!
This week, my bloggy friend and fellow MilSO, Katie from Mr. & Mrs. Foster is posting. She offers some wonderful insight into the benefits of what is a rather unfortunate circumstance that many of us who are in relationships with service members know all too well – being apart from a loved one.
Enjoy!
Hey, I’m Katie from Mr. & Mrs. Foster and I’m taking over Jackie’s blog for the day! I’m going to talk about separation, which unfortunately Jackie is no stranger too!
Separations are funny things and being a military wife I have encountered multiple of them because of deployments and training. It seems like every time I finally get settled into a solid routine with my husband, Carl, he is ripped from my life yet again. It’s hard. It is. Nothing you do, nothing anyone says will be able to prepare you for a long separation from your significant other.
It’s weird though, life goes on without them. When they first leave you don’t think it will. You cry and pout and moan and lay in bed and eat too much. But eventually you get up and you pick up the pieces and continue on.
If I could choose, I would never be apart from Carl (obviously). But in a strange way being apart from him has done good things for our relationship.
I have been tested again and again. I have been emotionally pushed to my limit. But I have succeeded again and again. I surprise myself by how capable I am and I make myself proud. I can fix the broken lawn mower on my own, I can talk to a mechanic about what is wrong with my car, I can maintain the house on my own.
Our relationship has been tested again and again. We both get frustrated, we both get lonely, we both get mad at the circumstances. But neither of us ever gives up. Again and again we have proven that our love for each other really can conquer all.
In Carl’s absence I have the opportunity to show him that his woman can do it all! When we are together that time is never-ever-ever (cue Taylor Swift) taken for granted.
Separation is so bittersweet. It sucks. You can sit there and complain about it and feel sorry for yourself or you can find the beauty in it.
I choose to find the beauty in it.
I choose to take advantage of my extra time and reach goals. Whether that be by going to school, getting more involved in the gym, or remodeling the house.
I choose to realize how strong my relationship is.
I choose to be thankful that I have someone to miss, rather than be angry he’s not here.
I do have my moments of weakness, where I’m upset and sad, but I don’t let it consume me and that in itself is an accomplishment in my opinion!
Have you ever been separated from your loved one? How did you handle it?
Late night last minute thoughts on the bar exam
I must remind myself this is a privilege. There are women in other countries who can’t even attend school. Some people are born with diseases that prevent them from being fully, if at all, integrated into society.
There are people who would’ve liked to have gone to college, had my experiences, my grades, gotten into law school, [my law school], & live in NYC.
To have parents who financially and emotionally support them 100%. A boyfriend who has his life together and loves them. Great family and friends.
This is just a test and I’ve worked my butt off for 20 years of schooling, not just 2 months. I’ve got this. And if not this time, then another time. Everything will happen like it’s supposed to.
…That’s my self-motivating story and I’m sticking with it.
{Really, I’m freaking out but I will continue repeating that to myself until I calm down. I’m so close to being done.}
Lovely Blog Hop
Welcome to A Lovely Blog Hop, where each Thursday we have the grand opportunity to meet and connect with lovely new bloggers, such as myself! Now you have something to do and somewhere to go on Thursdays!
1. Follow your host and any co-hosts (if it applies). Co-hosts will be the first 3 to 5 entries.
I am your host, Rekita @ Her&Nicole and I am the first linky.
Feel free to leave a comment and introduce yourself!
Sponsor Co-Hosts:
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2. Link it!
Link up your blog or anything else you find lovely. Share your family, fashion, food, crafts, or anything that you love this week. Please, please, please, share the love and include a link back to this blog hop.
3. Spread it!
This is a blog hop after all, so hop around! Visit other blogs and say Hi!
4. Grab it!
Grab the button and place it somewhere in your blog or add just the link. Preferably in your blog post.
This will help us promote this blog hop, believe me, the more the merrier! Or post the link somewhere in your blog.
5. Tweet it!
Please help me to promote this blog hop by sharing it to others.
So tweet it to show everyone where you link up on Thursdays!
6. The most important rule of them all, HAVE FUN BLOG HOPPING!
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