Moments of Musing

When You’re in a Slump

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I’m not sure if it was the gloomy weather outside, or just an off day, but recently I was feeling unfulfilled. I found myself feeling like I was in a slump, questioning my professional life choices. It was not the first time and it surely will not be the last. While I don’t like feeling that way, I do think it’s quite normal. 
I think it’s very important to think about your situation and why you’re feeling that way. You don’t want to find yourself feeling this way for longer than what is necessary and/or healthy. 

These are the methods I use to cope when I find myself in a “slump”: 

Ask yourself what you think got you to feeling this way. It can be a multitude of reasons: overanalyzing, the weather, hunger, sleepiness, boredom, complacency, a bad day at work, lack of self care, etc. 

Find a temporary way to achieve satisfaction/ happiness. It can be listening to music, working out, or momentarily stepping away from the situation. Whatever makes you happy–that’s not destructive– would be good to do. 

Think of solutions to not feel like this again (anytime soon, anyway). This can mean anything from a move, to a change of job, a different group of friends, a break-up, or a vacation. 

Keep everything in perspective. A few bad minutes or one bad day will not last forever. It’s a bad moment/ hour/ day, not a bad life. 


*** I am not a therapist or doctor nor do I claim to be. This post is comprised of my individual opinions, and not meant to convey professional medical or mental health advice. This post is not about depression or suicidual thoughts. If you are feeling depressed or suicidal please call the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at 1 (800) 273-8255.*** 

“Annimoon”

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A few weekends ago, Mr. L and I spent a few days in Québec, Canada. We absolutely loved it. From the French language spoken to the French cuisine and European architecture, it truly felt like we were out of the country. The moment we drove through Québec’s walls, we knew we were in for a treat. 

Oh and by the way if you go, stay at the castle (you read that correctly!) hotel Fairmont Le Chateau Frontenac. It is amazing! (No, this is not a sponsored post–we just really loved it.)

Thankful for the little things

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To come to bed to (lots of) clothes already folded by Mr. L
When Mr. L surprises me with (cute!) home organization items we need
That fall season has been so good to us. 
To see my husband and little brother have grown to have a close relationship. 
Of course there are the “big” things, such as health and family, that I am always grateful for. I just wanted to use this time to focus on the things that might get overshadowed in the day-to-day.
I hope you all had as great and fulfilling a Thanksgiving as we did. 

Late fall/winter goals

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The beginning of the weekend is as good a time as any to talk about #goals. Since November is well under way, and I want to keep at my goals for the whole upcoming chilly season, I figured I’d name them “late fall/winter goals.” They are:

1. To find an exercise regimen that I can do nightly when I get home from work. This has been my biggest struggle because after working all day, working out is the last thing I want to do. 
2. To go for walks around our neighborhood park on the weekends. I love doing outdoorsy things and I’d like to continue as long as there isn’t snow on the ground. 
3. To be more compassionate and grateful. It’s perfect for the upcoming season and because my fuse has been short lately. 
4. Study for the NY bar so I can pass it this time. You read correctly– I’m retaking that bad boy and I’m newly focused on the prize. 
5. Continue the search for a home. We’ve been casually house hunting but the search is hard in a city where the medial price for homes is over half a million… I am confident we will be owners next year though.
Do you have any new goals? 

One year of marriage

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Happy First Anniversary to my light and my love.
It’s hard to believe it’s been one whole year married. If you’d asked me years ago, this is exactly where I’d hoped us to be in life. But with military and long distance, I was always nervous. Of the uncertain. Of not making it. Of falling apart. Yet, here we are. 
Marriage has been interesting. It’s learning how to coexist with another person. It’s considering his feelings and his thoughts. It’s keeping perspective. It’s finding ways to get through hurdles. It’s exploring life’s happy moments and working through life’s stressful moments. 
Marriage, to us, embodies team work. It’s being different yet similar. It’s having the same goals but different executions. It’s thriving on our strengths and building up our weaknesses. It’s seeing the light at the end of the tunnel. 
Marriage has been celebrations and tears. It’s been laughs and struggles. It’s been frustrations and cuddles. It’s been very brief time apart, which made us question how we ever did long periods apart. It’s togetherness. 
Marriage has been worth it. As difficult as any day might be, it’s heartwarming and reassuring to know I’ve got a lifelong partner and best friend in my husband.