9/11 Memorial (taken October 2011)
When I’m not with T, I’m with my phone because that’s how we communicate the majority of the time, especially when he was underway and deployed. So, unfortunately for those around me, it’s almost attached to my hand when I’m out and about. I’m currently much better about this because he isn’t deployed and we have each other’s schedules down … but when he’s somewhere new or something is going on, I can’t promise not to look at my phone a lot.
I’ll believe the return date/time when he/she is standing in front of me.
I am a planner but the military does not allow for much planning. So this has been one of my biggest struggles. Almost 3 years later, I still get very upset when plans aren’t made well in advance or have to be changed because of military-related issues. Overall, though, it hasn’t been too hard or bad. We’ve never had to drastically alter visits or trips and for that I am grateful.
Or even better – we got this. Time and time again, I am reminded by Timmy that we are a team. Partners. Neither one of us is going through the distance or in a military relationship alone. Knowing he misses me as much as I miss him, and supports me as much as I do him has been one of the most helpful things for me.
This is so important. During deployments, underways, workups, etc. it’s vital to keep sensitive information to yourself. Keeping the guys and girls out of as much of harm’s way as possible shouldn’t be as difficult as it seems with others spewing off dates and locations. Don’t be one of those people. Don’t communicate the information to others unless it’s been made public i.e. on the web, in newspapers, on t.v. etc.
