Moments of Musing

There is an Explanation

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For the missed 

Text.

Call.

Email.

Get together.

Chat.

Message.

Comment.

There is an explanation.

For the

Unfolded laundry.

Dishes piled up.

Dust bunnies abound.

Laundry bins overflowing.

Disorganization.

There is an explanation.

I was busy being a mom.

Please do understand.

I will try harder …

But if motherhood beckons, 

Motherhood wins.







Love Your {Postpartum} Body – 5 Ways to Improve Your Postpartum Body Image

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This post is sponsored by TOBI. 

My self confidence has most definitely evolved since becoming a mom. While I still have my moments of discontent, I have never loved my body more–and not necessarily because it looks better. But because I am eternally grateful for what my body has given me–my baby, the best gift of all. 

How can I be upset at it when it’s done such an amazing thing?? 

Plus, I don’t want my son hearing me lament about my body. Because contrary to popular belief, boys suffer from body image issues at pretty alarming rates. I don’t want my body issues to cause or influence his. In fact, I hope he never has any. 
So, though I have moments when I’m hard on myself, I quickly snap out of it (and I’ve almost completely dropped the F [fat] word!). My hope is that you, too, will do the same and love your postpartum body.

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If you are struggling with your postpartum body image, here are five things you can do to improve it:

1. Embrace your new figure. Focus on something(s) you like. It can be your bigger bust or behind or your curvier hips. Maybe it’s a welcomed change 😉

2. Remember the reason for the changes. Your body did an amazing thing. It grew, nurtured and birthed a human. A miracle was born from you. 


3. Be kind to yourself. Give yourself grace and love. So much love. You and your body have been through so much change recently. You don’t deserve to be hard on yourself.

4. Put good things into your body. Veggies, fruits, whole grains. Sure, have the occasional soda or ice cream but I assure you the healthier the food you eat, the better you will feel. Exercise would help, too. 

5. Rock your body. Buy the new clothes you’ve been wanting. Show off your curves. Be bold. Be you. Be proud. Confidence is beautiful. And girlfriend, you are gorgeous. 

I know this is a very serious issue but I want to end on a light note so I leave you with this Scary Mommy quote: 

“Your kids won’t remember your muffin top, spider veins or saggy ass. They’ll only remember you.” 

Now, go out there and work it, mama!

*** I am not a therapist or doctor nor do I claim to be. This post is comprised of my individual opinions, and not meant to convey professional medical or mental health advice. This post is not about an eating disorder, self harm, or suicidual thoughts/ideations. If you or someone you know is struggling with any of those, please call the 24-hour National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255 or the National Eating Disorders Association Helpline at 1-800-931-2237.*** 

What Works (for You) is What’s Right

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Ah, motherhood. 
This new(ish) season in life is unlike any I’ve ever experienced — and I’ve pulled all-nighters for law school exams, which were worth 100% of my grade, and stayed inside for 12 straight days while studying for the bar exam. I am no stranger to stress or spreading myself thin. 
But I am new to this experience and what I’ve learned over and over and over again, is that it is different for everyone. And everyone does it differently. Similarly to other life experiences, I do what works, I cut myself slack when I fall short, and I promise to be better.

What I’m getting at is that I’m not perfect and neither are you. And that’s okay. You can do a lot but you can’t do it all, and that’s okay, too. That’s been my biggest takeaway–I can be Mom, Wife, Attorney, etc., but (and it’s a pretty big but) I have to compartmentalize. I can’t FaceTime my son while I’m meeting a client. That doesn’t mean I’m any less of a mom–it just means I’m doing what I can when I can.
I’m sure you are, too. So, be proud of yourself and love yourself–shortcomings and all. Speak up and speak out. Know it’s also okay to take a step back. Be in solitude if you need to. Cry if you want to. Vent if you have to. You know you better than anyone else. So, be you. Do what you have to. Be it work. Me time. Sleep time. Do what works for you. Be it formula. Bottle. Breast.

And don’t you apologize for it. You have nothing to be sorry about. You have nothing to feel guilty about.

You care, you love, and you’re trying to be the best mom you can be. You’re doing everything right.

A Letter to my Little Love (Excerpts)

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Happy June! AKA Summer month!

Things I can not believe:

  • It is already JUNE.
  • It is my baby’s birthday month.
  • He will be one-year-old in a few weeks.
  • I have been a mom for almost one year.


I may or may not have cried about all of the above a few times already, with many more tears to be shed this month. I’m not ashamed to admit that… I’m an emotional person, okay?

In honor of his upcoming birthday, I’ve decided to share excerpts from a letter I wrote him around the time I returned back to work from maternity leave:

To my little love, 

You, my boy, have given me so much to live for. At the age of 27.9 years, I’d thought I was pretty grown up. Then you came, silently at first but then screeching, into my life and you’ve taught me more about myself, life and love than I ever thought was possible. And I’m still learning… 

I am writing this now because I have recently gone back to work, and I never, ever want you to think it is because I didn’t want to spend my days with you. Actually, I want that more than anything. And while I do enjoy working, which gives me guilt, I hope you’ll grow to be proud and independent because of the example I’m setting. 

And so, here I am, writing a letter of gratitude to you. Because I am so grateful for all you’ve brought into my life–and I’m hopeful this is just the very beginning of a long, long life together. 

You, my boy, made me a mommy. Your mom. In doing so, you’ve made my dream come true. 

I know our journey has just begun and one day you might be joined by other siblings (don’t worry, they’ll be your best friends) and our routine will probably grow hectic. But in both tough times–heartbreak, sorrow, disappointment–and happy times–success, triumph, celebration–I want you to always remember that life is a beautiful thing. After all, it gave us you.  

I love you. I love you. I love you.  

~ Mama


Survey Says – 7 of the Best + Worst Parts of Motherhood

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Mother’s Day is just a few days away … but really moms (and dads!) deserve to be celebrated everyday. 😉
In honor of the upcoming holiday, I thought it would be interesting to share with you findings from a Gifts.com survey of 1,000 moms.
Some of the biggest takeaways were: 
  1. The best part about being a mom is the unconditional love.
  2. Moms dislike the the never-ending laundry the most.
  3. Moms enjoy driving their kids to activities.
  4. Moms hate seeing their child upset or hurt more than anything else.
  5. Surprisingly, moms don’t feel as though they are missing out on activities with friends.
  6. Being a mom makes women feel proud.
  7. But moms don’t always feel brave or empowered.

Here are the full survey findings:
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If there are any moms reading who do not feel empowered, my hope is that this space will help foster your empowerment through connection and collaboration. Remember, we’re all on the same team.

I wish all of you great moms a relaxing, joyous Mother’s Day full of love.