A few months ago, during the summer when we were deciding whether to try for one more baby, I posed the questions: How do you *know* when you are ready to close the chapter of growing your family? Was it up to you or a medical condition? Was it your and/or your partner’s primary desire? My husband and I knew we wanted another child for a few reasons.
It is such a big, sometimes bittersweet, decision.
The decision process of whether to have more children looks different for everyone.
Boy or girl, we knew this would be our last baby… But how did I know I was not done having kids?
Well, for starters, I have always wanted two or four kids, more-so the latter. My husband wanted three kids but was open to four.
Then, one day a few months ago, I looked around to account for our kids, and I thought one was missing… but I was not yet even pregnant. In my heart, I knew I was longing for our 4th baby and that it was meant to be for our family. After discussing with my husband, we knew we wanted another child.
The biggest reason it felt okay was because I didn’t feel like we’d reached our complete capacity. While motherhood is sometimes hard, it’s also amazing. Our careers are successfully growing, and we do not feel as if we are stretched too thin. Tim and I are both very hands on and involved, and my family is nearby so whenever he or I do feel burnt out or overwhelmed, we are able to have help. (To be honest, just knowing we have a village helps and is something I try to really appreciate.)
Health-wise, since I have had c-sections, I voiced my desire to have a fourth baby during my last pregnancy. I was told to check-in with the OB surgeon during my C-section to get the OK. The surgeon had to make sure my scar tissue was not excessive, and informed me it would be safe to have a fourth C-section.
That being said, having a fourth child will definitely be an adventure and while we are a bit nervous, we are even more excited!
How’d you know whether or not you wanted more kids?
*Sending love to everyone wondering, wishing, waiting, expecting, or done.*
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