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LDR? Go For It.

Filed Under: homecoming, long distance, love // April 20, 2017

“Sure, there’s the loneliness, the longing, the enormous phone bills. But have you really lived if you’ve never searched for your beloved’s face at an airport gate?” – Meghan Daum

Homecoming photos by Endlessly Photography; Homecoming post here

If given the choice, I would never be apart from my husband and in a long distance relationship (LDR) again. Been there, done that. See, my husband and I were already were in one–and kicked butt while doing so, if I might add. 😉

Over the years, I’ve had people, some of whom were also in long distance relationships and some who were just interested, ask me how I did it. There is no simple answer, especially because every relationship is different (you know your relationship best). What I can wholeheartedly tell you is it will take a lot of quality communication, effort, trust, and love.

Before I jump into my advice about whether to pursue a long distance relationship, I want to let you know I am [cautiously] optimistic by nature. I try my best to view the glass half full and to find the good in every situation. And I am a hopeless romantic. I chose to enter into a long distance relationship when I met my husband and I chose to continue when he moved thousands of miles away. I chose to do so because I loved him too much to simply give up due to some distance.

If the prospect of an LDR is the current reality you’re facing, and you have strong feelings for your partner, I’m here to tell you to go for it. Follow your heart. Stop doubting. Take a leap of faith.

It’s okay.

It’s okay — and very possible — to fall in love with someone who lives far, far away. Let yourself. Yes, there will be tears and lonely nights. But I promise it will be one of, if not THE most romantic, passionate love stories you can ever be a part of.

Now, unfortunately, I’m no relationship guru or fortune teller. The reality is your relationship might not work out. (If that happens, I’m truly sorry.)

But my goodness, it might. It just might.

And then one day, you’ll wake up everyday next to your partner just like you’d dreamed of. You’ll live together. Get married, if you so choose. Maybe start a family. All in the same place, in the same city, in the same state, in the same country as one another.

And you’ll look back on those LDR days and you’ll feel like together, your partnership can conquer anything. You’ll feel stronger because of those days and have a solid foundation because of them, too. Because if you can live without your love most days of your dating days and succeed, together, you can overcome a lot.

After all, you’re together. Together, after all.

This post was inspired by my most recent post and my very own love story, which just happens to be my favorite.

Reflecting on Our Long Distance Days

Filed Under: long distance, love // April 13, 2017

When my husband and I met, we were each living in a different state–he in Virginia and I in New York.

Yet, something told each of us to hold on and it wasn’t long before we were talking marriage.We started making plans for the future and were hopeful he’d get new orders to his same base in Virginia or somewhere closer to me.

And then, he got orders to the farthest base on his list: Hawaii.

We’d only been dating a few months when that happened. I remember getting the call and I remember the breakdowns that immediately ensued.

Our fairytale was coming to an end, I feared. Yet, in my heart I knew–I just knew it was an obstacle we’d have to overcome to be together.

Now, here we are.

Some days, I reflect on and reminisce about our long distance days … those tear-filled, lonely, scary days full of unknowns but also full of so much love, romance, and adventure.

I reminisce about them not because I particularly miss the long distance. But because of how our love carried us while being hundreds and then thousands of miles, bodies of water and, sometimes, continents apart for years (almost three years)… It still amazes me.

These days, that same–yet different–love continues to carry us. And I am so grateful for it.

Time was our only obstacle

Filed Under: long distance, love // September 23, 2016

It has been a little over two years since Tim got out of the Navy and joined me in civilian life. Basically, it’s been two years since we really started our life together.

Recently, while sorting through boxes, I came across an old calendar I had given him when we were still in a long distance relationship.

Each month had a different quote (authors unknown). Put together, they read:

“No one comes to you by accident. There is no such thing as coincidence. I know the circumstances and I’ve accepted them. Loving you is worth all of it. And though sometimes you have to be apart from your love… Being apart doesn’t make you love any less. Sometimes you love more. Our life together will be worth waiting for. Time is our only obstacle. And like all things it too shall pass. The day will come when we will be together like we have planned. And that is surely worth the wait.”

Looking through the calendar brought me back down memory lane at how new and strong our love for one another was despite the thousands of miles between us. It laid the foundation for the even stronger love we share now. And it’d made me extra grateful to be living our life together today.

Missing Him

Filed Under: i miss you, long distance // February 11, 2013

I don’t want to start the [work]week off on a negative note. So I’m not. I don’t think it’s bad to miss T. I think I’ll miss him even when we’re not long distance. I’ll miss him when he goes to work or on business trips or out for a night with friends. I think it’s okay, perhaps even good, to miss your significant other.

I miss T’s hugs and kisses. His in-person chats. The ability to hold him. To stroke his face. To fall asleep next to him. I miss going on dates. I miss staying in and cuddling while watching TV and a movie. Joking around with each other. I miss everything about him and everything we do together when we’re [physically] apart. Heck, I even miss our bickering in person because issues usually get resolved sooner that way.

I miss it all because I love him. But that love outweighs my missing him, which is why I think I am able to cope so well.

Although I try not to “complain” or “whine” about it much, I’m not ashamed of missing T. And I’m not ashamed to communicate my missing him (I think it’s only natural). None of you should be either 🙂

Someday…

Filed Under: long distance, love // January 26, 2013

“Someday (hopefully very very very very soon) we are gonna live in the same place and it is gonna be ridiculously amazing!

This super sweet art set includes two of this print – one for each of you! – expressing the hopeful sentiment and designed for couples who are currently and unfortunately separated by the evil villain known as Long Distance.

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Right now, he may be in Denver and you may be in Orlando, but one day you live in the same place! And with this art, you will each have a reminder to hang on the walls in your current location to remind you of how ridiculously amazing it will be when you get to see each other on a daily basis and “I miss you” calls will be a thing of the past.

Imagine it. You’re lying on your couch talking to your sweetie who is five bazillion miles away. And you’re gazing at this print. And he’s looking at an identical print. And suddenly, badabam, you feel like he’s not so far away. Okay, perhaps that’s expecting too much. So, more realistically, you’re lying on your couch talking to your sweetie who is five bazillion miles away. And you’re looking at this print. And he’s looking at the same exact print. And you’re happily chatting about the day you can trash both of them, because, you, indeed, live in the same place.

The good news is if you decide not to trash them when that happy day comes, they’ll be just as beautiful years from now as they are on the day they’re printed.”